Do We Have Your Attention
Get ready for unfiltered discussions with Paula Bamgbose-Martins and Aisha Popoola, two cultural hybrid licensed mental health therapists, on a mission to dive deep into the topics that touch us all as humans. Here, we invite you to join our candid, heartfelt conversations on mental, emotional, and physical health, as well as the shared challenges we face in this journey called life. This is the podcast where we ask, 'Do we Have Your Attention?' as we explore what connects us all.
Episodes
28 episodes
S2 Ep 12: Inner Child Wounds and How We Can Identify Them
We all carry wounds, many reaching back to childhood. Left unhealed, these wounds often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others. In this episode, we explore how to recognize the wounds of our inner child and u...
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49:16
S2 Ep 11: The Importance and Impact of Taking Accountability ft. Ibrahim Popoola
In this episode, we dive deep into why accountability feels so hard and why it matters now more than ever. Together with our guest, Ibrahim Popoola, we unpack what accountability truly means, why many of us resist it, and how a lack of it can q...
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50:31
S2 Ep 10: Understanding Attachment Styles
Attachment styles are everywhere in the conversation right now, but what do they mean, and why have they become such a buzzword? In this episode, we break down the different attachment styles, how to recognize them, and the powerful role they p...
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Season 2
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Episode 10
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51:22
S2 Ep 9: Why are Millennials Unhappy? ft. Faith Onyesom
Being a millennial isn’t easy, especially in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. In this much-anticipated episode, we explore the deeper roots of why millennials are often called the anxious generation. Joined by our inspiring gue...
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Season 2
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Episode 9
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52:34
S2 Ep 8: Dating as a Therapist
In this exciting (and slightly jaw-dropping) episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to date as a therapist. From the struggle of turning off our “therapist brain,” to the expectations we bring with us into rel...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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55:32
S2 Ep 7: Common Controlling Behaviors ft. Dustin Barnes
In this powerful episode, we’re joined by the one and only Dustin Barnes, Founder and Lead Clinical Social Worker of Dustin Barnes Therapy. Together, we unpack common controlling behaviors that often appear in our relationship dynamics—sometime...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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43:27
S2 Ep 6: Do We Give People Space to Grow—With or Without Us?
Sometimes, relationships shift, and growing apart can be one of the hardest changes to face. In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a relationship may have run its course. We also dive into how to hold space for s...
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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50:44
S2 Ep 5: Why Do People Avoid Therapy ft. Funmto Ogunbanwo
In this exciting episode, we welcome our first guest to the Do We Have Your Attention? space—the incredible Funmto Ogunbanwo, founder and lead Clinical Mental Health Therapist at Ibi Ayo Therapy and Wellness Limited. Together, we unpac...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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50:36
S2 Ep 4: Is Closure Overrated?
In this episode, we're unpacking the ever-elusive concept of closure, especially in the context of relationships. Do we need it to move on, or is it overrated? We explore the different ways people seek and experience closure, challenge...
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43:44
S2 Ep.3: Communication Differences Between Generations
Why do communication clashes between generations seem so recurring—and so hard to resolve? In this episode, we dig into the root causes of generational conflict and the biggest barriers to meaningful connections across age groups. From unspoken...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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44:19
S2 Ep.2: Why Do We Struggle With Giving Ourselves Compassion?
Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same grace, kindness, and respect we freely give to others? In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind our struggle with self-compassion. We unpack how our upbringing and early conditionin...
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50:34
S2 Ep.1: Do You Want To Be Right or Do You Want To Be Happy?
Welcome back to Do We Have Your Attention? for the premiere of Season 2! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home: why do we often prioritize being right over being happy? We explore what hap...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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47:58
Ep 16 - The Many Faces of Existential Burnout
In this episode, we discuss the impact of existential burnout and the factors contributing to someone feeling existential burnout. From careers, relationships, and even ourselves, we identify helpful strategies that can be considered when navig...
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46:58
Ep.15 - What Happens With Our Unresolved Trauma?
In this episode, we explore the true meaning of unresolved trauma while attempting to understand how it affects our mental health and emotional well-being. From our personal to professional experiences, we identify coping mechanisms and t...
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42:22
Ep.14 - The Psychology of People Pleasing
In this episode, we examine the habit of people-pleasing and its common root causes. We also discuss the short-term and long-term consequences of prioritizing others over one’s well-being. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast...
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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44:26
Ep.13 - The Impact of Parental Trauma on Our Mental Health
In this episode, we discuss “parental trauma” from understanding how it manifests to identifying common behavioral patterns we might inherit from parents who have unresolved trauma. Our goal is to highlight ways in which we can approach convers...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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45:26
Ep.12 - Understanding Forgiveness
In this episode, we discuss the impact of forgiveness and the lack of forgiveness in our daily functioning. By examining some of the myths around forgiveness, we identify practical steps that can be helpful for those who may struggle with forgi...
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46:20
Ep.11 - Cognitive Mind Traps
In this episode, we discuss common distorted thinking patterns, also known as “cognitive mind traps”. From personalization to jumping to conclusions to overgeneralization and filtering. We examine the various ways in which they influence our qu...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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43:06
Ep.10 - Vulnerability: A sign of courage or weakness?
In this episode, we examine the importance of vulnerability in our overall well-being and the well-being of our relationships. We discuss what it means to be courageous in showing vulnerability and the impact of societal pressure on our willing...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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41:00
Ep.9 - Conflict in Relationships
In this episode, we attempt to understand conflict better through the lens of the 5 most common conflict styles, such as competing, collaboration, compromising, avoidance, and accommodating 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcas...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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42:45
Ep.8 - Why Consistency is Important
In this episode, we share our knowledge of the importance of consistency. Using the three 3C’s confidence, competence, and consistency, we identify how implementing small disciplines on a daily basis can improve one’s mental health and wellbein...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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39:22
Ep.7 - I Am a Woman and My Health Matters Too
In this episode, we use our real-life experiences to explore the disparities and disadvantages experienced with healthcare of women from sociocultural factors, underdiagnosis, disbelief, and undertreatment of women’s pain, etc <...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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40:56
Ep.6 - Do We Attract What We Are
We ask the question “Do we attract what we are” by exploring the connection between our societal expectations and the types of relationships and opportunities we attract in life. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast?Show ...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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44:00
Ep.5 - Workplace Toxicity
In this episode, we define workplace toxicity and the impact it has on mental health wellness. Using their individual experiences Aisha and Paula identify ways in which we can strengthen our mental health regardless of our work environments&nbs...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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49:50
Ep.4 - Is Comparing Success with Others Healthy?
Rumor has it comparison can be a thief of joy, in this episode we explore if the rumors are true. Aisha and Paula embrace their vulnerable experiences to explain the thin line between healthy and unhealthy comparisons of success.
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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44:12